I know I said I wasn't going to make resolutions.
Well, I changed my mind. Which is ironic, because one of my resolutions is now to be more decisive. I'm decisive as all get out about the little things, but here lately the big things have thrown me for a loop. Matters of the heart. Those murky, gray areas in life. Someone once told me, "Often wrong, but never in doubt...Make a decision and move on." Indecisivness is so unbecoming. I'm seriously getting on my own nerves! In order to work on this area, I think I have to go deeper. When making big decisions, I think the following questions need to be asked of oneself:
1. What am I afraid of?
2. What insecurities are causing my confliction?
3. This leads me to belief. With insecurity, there is unbelief. What should I be believing God for that I am currently not believing? Do I really TRUST Him with my life and heart.
4. In 10 years, what impact will the decision have on my life?
5. What does God say about it?
6. Am I making the decision based on emotions or truth? I naturally have an all or nothing personality. This makes gray areas so taxing for me! I operate 90% from an emotional place. I feel deeply and truly can empathize with different view points on a single matter. The dichotomy of making a big decision gets me every time. Balance is essential.
"A woman can know faith in her head and fear in her heart."
-Ann Voskamp
7. What do the people you truly value and trust have to say? Have you sought good counsel on the matter? Don't ask too many people; just your close inner circle. The fewer the better.
8. If you have a child or want to one day, what advice would you offer to them. This one usually seals the deal for me.
And then: Bravery, courage, and the guts to make the decision.
I do have more resolutions, but I'll end here for now. Here's to being more decisive, confident, and self assured in life!
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